General Health & WellbeingPosted by Little Acorn Wed, January 03, 2018 05:32PM
Show your best self at that job interview
By Sally Race Clinical Hypnotherapist
We’ve all been there, you see a job
advertised, its perfect for you, maybe even your dream job. You have all the essential
qualifications and experience and complete an application form amazingly. So
you get offered an interview, which you’re so excited about! Hurrah!
Then …. the nerves set in, you know that
you’re going to dry up, your memory will fail, you’ll spill any drink they
offer you and /or say something stupid. A million possibilities of something
going wrong go through your mind and you may lose sleep as the interview date
comes closer, maybe even consider cancelling the interview.
In reality you know that you can do the job
fabulously, so why all the negativity and stress?
Its just how you’ve learned to feel for
lots of possible reasons, but what you need to know is that you can learn to
Here are my top tips for interview prep;
1, Do your prep. Learn about the company,
read the job spec and have a guess at what questions they might ask and think
about how you could answer them. Read up on anything related to the job that
might be helpful.
2. Correct labeling. You will feel nervous,
we all do at interviews, but you can choose how to interpret that funny feeling
in your tummy and your strongly beating heart. Nervous anxiety or nervous
excitement? They both have exactly the same feelings/symptoms and remember that
this is your dream job, so, choose to label this as excitement J
3. Be active. In the days leading up to
your interview, DO NOT be a couch potato! The funny nervous feeling you
experience are a result of a hormone release into your blood stresm,
activity/exercise help to release these from your system (it can also help you
sleep better and releases endorphins – win - win).
4. Affirmations. Write yourself a list of
positive affirmations and recite them with passion several times a day. Here
are a few affirmation examples;
*I can be amazing in this role
*I look forward to showing the interview
people how I can do this role
*I’m excited to be going for the interview
*This interview is a great opportunity for
me to practice being amazing at interviews
*I’m excited to be able to tell them about
all my relevant skills and knowledge
5. Notice your self talk and thoughts,
correct then whenever needed. Those negative thoughts don’t usually disappear
overnight, like anything that you want to change, it takes a little practice.
So notice whenever a negative thought pops into your head or out of your mouth
and change the wording. i.e. “I feel really nervous about my interview.” Change
to “I was nervous, but now I’m excited to show them that I can do the job
6. Power pose! Yes, your read that right.
You know that you can tell how someone is feeling by their posture right?
Slumped shoulders, head drooped down, you know they’re not feeling great and no
one wants to feel like that.
You know the postures that show people to
be confident, happy, excited etc don’t you? Well, they are the poses to
practice, winning ones, confident ones. Obviously you don’t want to be throwing
your arms up in the air in the interview as if you are crossing the finishing
line as the winner of a race, but practicing this in the run up to the
interview (even in the loo just prior to the interview) is perfect. You see,
our feelings result in postures, but it also works in reverse, when we adopt
these power poses, they start to change our feelings. Try it, give Mo Farrah’s
pose a go, or throw your arm/arms up in the air like a winner, put your hands
on your hips like the ‘wonder woman’ pose.
7. Remember what this is really about. This
is just an opportunity for you to show the people in the room how well you can
do the job and how you’d like to work with them. This is after all what they
want to hear. Be passionate, it isn’t really about you, its about the job ;)
I hope my tips help, if you feel you could
benefit from a little more help, then hypnotherapy and NLP could be the answer
for you. Consultations to find out more, are free of charge and completely
General Health & WellbeingPosted by Sally-Anne Fri, October 20, 2017 01:27PMBy Sally-Anne Marler - Creative Arts Facilitator & Happiness Coach
We often underestimate the power of self-talk and how it can adversely effect our actions, behaviours, beliefs and shape our thoughts. We all mumble things to ourselves, think things that are quite self-critical, scold ourselves when we forget something or for not doing or saying something. What we don't realise is the damage that this does to our confidence and self-esteem and how it can soon start to become habitual and expected.
The first step in remedying this is to become aware of it. Once you've done that you can then start to challenge anything you are saying to yourself that might be hurtful, judgmental or critical. For some - you may be able to identify where this voice comes from - it could be a parent figure or just something you started to do when you were younger, a coping mechanism for example if you were being picked on or singled out with your friends or at school. Once you have done that, try to challenge it in a way that is gentle but assertive. A counter responsive act to neutralise your initial thought! Below are a few examples you can try...
Lastly, think of yourself in the same way you would a good friend or a loving family member and ask yourself would you speak to them that way? The answer will undoubtedly be no, you wouldn't. So why talk to yourself that way. You deserve better, you are better, you are now and will always be a work in progress just like everyone else. Give yourself and show yourself a little compassion, a little kindness along with a dollop of patience and love. How we speak to ourselves will have a direct influence on how we work with others, approach opportunities and shape our perspectives on day to day living. Start where you are. Start with you.
I offer 1:1 coaching helping you place the focus back onto you, working positively with you so you start to notice your strengths and identify better with your likes, passions and sense of purpose and meaning. I offer a free 20 minute consultation and work creatively with you using journals to help this process. To find out more get in touch or book your free consultation
General Health & WellbeingPosted by Sally-Anne Fri, October 13, 2017 03:12PM
By Helen Duffy, Naturopathic Nutritional Therapist
a Nutritional Therapist, I regularly talk with my clients about
making something become part of their daily habit. One of the most
simple, yet it can have some pretty impressive effects on our health,
is starting each day with a simple tonic. This means that before you
eat or drink anything else, yes even that most important first cup of
tea or coffee, you have a simple tonic drink.
tonic drink that I most commonly recommend to my clients is warm
water, lemon juice, apple cider vinegar, honey and cinnamon. All of
the ingredients have their own important qualities and together they
can help to boost your immune system, balance your blood sugars,
expel toxins from your liver, kick-start your digestion and support
your kidneys. Not bad from a pleasant tasting morning drink ready in
a couple of minutes!
key to success with this tonic is the quality of the ingredients so I
always recommend using the best that you can find, so that means
organic whenever possible and in the case of the honey and apple
cider vinegar, they need to be raw so that the active ingredients are
still present and haven't been processed away. Look for 'raw' on the
label when you buy them. The apple cider vinegar may also say
something like 'contains the mother', which is another way of saying
that the active culture is still present which is exactly what you
want to get the benefits of.
you're struggling to find these ingredients in your supermarket there
are some good online shops, like www.buywholefoodsonline.co.uk
or of course, Amazon.
make your morning Lemon
you will need:
½ lemon squeezed
1-2 tsp apple cider
1/4-1/2 tsp turmeric
½ tsp honey
¼ tsp cinnamon
Mix the ingredients
together and add to a cup of warm water. Keep stirring as you drink
so the ingredients do not settle to the bottom.
this as part of your morning routine for at least a week to begin to
see the benefits.
Workshops & ClassesPosted by Sally-Anne Thu, June 22, 2017 12:11PM
By Sally-Anne Marler Creative Arts Therapist, Facilitator & Coach
We all get hit with this little monster from time to time. He's very clever and comes in many guises and tricks us into being okay about not doing what we really want! We forget what we really want because it all feels too big or scary and so we remain stuck in habitual patterns and routines that don't support our goals, dreams or aspirations. It's not all bad, when you look at why we do this we begin to understand it forms part of our fight or flight response, and we are just trying to keep ourselves 'safe'. But our definition of what is safe, is very different to what it meant years ago. As we are not all running from a saber tooth tiger these days, most of our fear comes from our minds, not an actual physical threat. It's the 'unknown' that tends to entice the procrastination monster out from hiding and can often be triggered by the prospect of change. But this is living, without it, we are simply existing.
I look back now and realise I became best buddies with the procrastination monster for the best part of 20 years or so and know first hand how it might start off quite innocent, believing you're doing the right thing and playing it safe but you end up feeling immense frustration, isolation and disorganisation.
Here are my top 5 tips to overcoming the procrastination monster:-
1. Focus only on one or two tasks at a time and ask yourself “what can I do now?” This will take the pressure off yourself and stop feelings of overwhelm. You might not get everything you wanted done, but you will get something done and lift that feeling of being stuck. Procrastination invites itself in when we feel overwhelmed with 'too much to do' so simplify your day and see one thing through at a time.
2. Meet up with supportive friends and family IN PERSON. Talk over any problems, concerns or anxiety that you are experiencing with them that fuel the procrastination monster! Be as open and as honest as you can. Once you've done this, the fear you felt about it will start to diminish because it's strength comes from you trying to hide it or not discussing it with anyone. Once it's all out in the open you will feel much better.
3. What you don't do influences your brain, thoughts and actions just as much as what you do do. This was a big eye-opener for me and I realised the more I resisted something the more anxious I became about doing it and I started to believe eventually that I couldn't do it, no matter how seemingly small it was. This is because the brain interprets this 'non action' to mean you actually can't do it. Start making a list of the things you feel you can't do, then write in front of each one I CAN DO... and read it over several times or say it out loud, then do one of the tasks.
4. Tell yourself daily that you're worth it, you're worth it, you're worth it. Why do we struggle to do things for ourselves but can easily do things for others? This conflict of interest usually comes from not feeling worthy enough and assuming our needs are not as important as the needs of others. You must absolutely believe with your whole heart that you are worthy of love, happiness, success and fulfilment and that it is not selfish of you to want these things or prioritise these things. You are worth it!
5. Be flexible and bring your awareness to the moment. Your goals are a process so acknowledge that, you don't need everything to be done right now. Remember what you've already done and achieved and be mindful of what you're working towards but don't get too consumed with it. It's what you're doing now that counts. Procrastination loves to take you away from living in the moment and slap you right bang into chaotic thoughts of 'not done' things from the future to make you feel small.
If you'd like to understand more about this you can book yourself onto a Mindset Motivator or Mindset Activator workshop, coming soon at Acorn! Click here for more information.